The Sacred Work of Becoming
There is something deeply sacred about realizing that our lives aren’t something we are meant to rush through—they’re something we’re meant to grow through. And yet, if we’re honest, most of us don’t live that way. We live with a quiet urgency within us—a pressure to figure everything out, to heal faster, to become stronger, and to finally arrive at a version of ourselves that feels steady, confident, and whole. We want our faith to feel unwavering. We want our emotions to make sense. We want our lives to reflect the peace we read about in Scripture. But instead, we often find ourselves somewhere in between. We are no longer who we used to be, but we aren’t quite who we thought we would be by now. And if we aren’t careful, that in-between space can begin to feel like failure—like we’re falling behind or like we’ve missed something everyone else seems to have found.
God Never Intended to Rush the Process
But Scripture speaks directly into this tension with a truth that shifts our perspective. Philippians 1:6 reminds us, “And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished…” (NLT). God never intended our becoming to happen all at once. He never designed our growth to be instant or our transformation to be rushed. Instead, He designed it as a process—one that unfolds slowly, intentionally, and personally over time. Our becoming isn’t formed in one breakthrough moment. More often, it’s formed in the everyday, in the small decisions, and in the quiet acts of obedience no one else sees. It’s shaped in the moments when we choose God even when we don’t fully understand what He is doing. And in those moments, our faith is being strengthened in ways far deeper than anything outward appearances could reveal.
What Is Growing Beneath the Surface
Becoming Her is often quieter than we expect it to be. It isn’t always marked by dramatic change, big revelations, or visible progress. Sometimes, it simply looks like consistency in the unseen. Galatians 6:9 encourages us, “So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessings if we don’t give up.” (NLT). There is a harvest attached to our becoming, but harvests are never immediate—they are grown over time. Before anything breaks through the soil, roots are growing underneath it. Before anyone sees evidence of what has been planted, something is already happening beneath the surface. And maybe that’s where some of us are right now. God is strengthening our foundations, renewing our minds, and aligning our hearts with His long before we can see the evidence of it. Romans 12:2 reminds us that transformation happens through the renewing of our minds. It isn’t always a single, life-changing moment. Often, it is the continual process of allowing ourselves to be reshaped by truth.
In the Hands of the Potter
Sometimes, that process is uncomfortable. Sometimes it feels like pressure, like stretching, like being refined in ways we never expected. But even that has a purpose. Isaiah 64:8 says, “And yet, O Lord, you are our Father. We are the clay, and you are the potter. We all are formed by your hand.” (NLT). Clay isn’t shaped all at once. It is pressed, molded, worked, and reshaped. There are moments when the clay may look nothing like what it will eventually become, and there are moments when the Potter reshapes what He has already formed. While being reshaped can feel unsettling, it is always done with intention. The hands forming us aren’t careless—they are purposeful, steady, and good. God isn’t rushing our growth, and He isn’t overlooking a single part of our process.
You Aren’t Behind
The truth is, you aren’t behind in your becoming. You aren’t late, and you haven’t missed what God has for you. You are exactly where He is working. Even in the places that feel slow, even in the areas that seem unchanged, and even in the moments when you wonder whether anything is happening at all, God is still moving. Second Corinthians 5:7 reminds us, “For we live by believing and not by seeing.” (NLT). We will not always see our progress while it’s happening. We may not feel the growth while it is forming, but that doesn’t mean nothing is happening. God is shaping our thoughts, refining our hearts, strengthening our faith, and building something within us that will last far beyond what we can currently see.
Trusting God in the Stillness
Something begins to shift when we stop measuring our growth by how quickly things are changing and instead begin trusting that God is working even when we cannot see it. The pressure to rush the process begins to loosen its grip, and in its place comes a quiet invitation to trust Him. Psalm 37:7 tells us, “Be still in the presence of the Lord, and wait patiently for him to act.” (NLT). Stillness doesn’t mean nothing is happening. Waiting doesn’t mean God has forgotten you, and slow growth doesn’t mean you are failing. Sometimes stillness simply means choosing to trust God in the middle of a story you cannot yet understand. It means allowing Him to form something within you that cannot be rushed, manufactured, or replicated.
Becoming Her Isn’t About Perfection
Becoming Her isn’t about arriving at some perfect version of yourself. It isn’t about finally becoming the woman who has everything figured out, whose faith never wavers, who never struggles, and who never questions what God is doing. She doesn’t exist. Becoming Her is about walking with God as He shapes you over time. It’s choosing Him over and over again—even when growth feels slow, unclear, uncomfortable, or painful. It’s surrendering the version of yourself you thought you were supposed to become and trusting the woman God is actually forming. It’s believing that the God who started something in you isn’t finished with you yet.
You Are Becoming
Ecclesiastes 3:11 reminds us, “Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.” (NLT). We cannot see the whole story yet. We don’t know what every season is preparing us for, and we don’t know how God will use every waiting period, every disappointment, every act of obedience, every prayer, every loss, every victory, or every seemingly ordinary moment. But He does. And that includes you—right where you are. You are not behind. You are not forgotten. You are not disqualified because your story looks different than you imagined. And you are not finished. You are becoming.
Reflection
As you step into this season, consider what it means that God isn’t rushing your growth. The places that feel slow or unfinished aren’t necessarily evidence of failure; they may be evidence that God is still working. You may not see everything He is doing, but that doesn’t mean He is absent. He is present in the process, shaping something deeper than what is immediately visible. Give yourself permission to stop rushing toward some imaginary finish line and rest in the understanding that becoming isn’t something you achieve overnight. It is something God forms within you over time.
As we walk through this season together and look at the lives of women throughout Scripture, we won’t simply look at who they became. We’re going to look at how God met them in the process—in their waiting, their obedience, their fear, their failures, their courage, their surrender, and their ordinary moments that became part of extraordinary stories. Because long before we knew these women by the stories recorded about them, they were women living somewhere in the middle, just like us. And maybe, as we look at their becoming, we’ll begin to recognize God in ours, too.
Welcome to Becoming Her.
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